Our Profile Pix

Our current profile pix is of our people. They live on our bed and are generally in an embrace. These small tie-dyed figures also serve as a great reminder to us that we must stay relational. If one of us is hurting or neglected or angry (etcetera), the people can be arranged to say that without the risk of confrontation. If the other of us notices the people facing away from each other or in an otherwise non-relational position, he/she has the opportunity to process thoughtfully before responding verbally. For instance, if I (Paige) see that the people on the bed are back-to-back, I will know that my dear hubby feels disconnected from me. At that point I can think about what might be bothering him and how to approach him in love and respect, instead of reacting to a perceived complaint. On the flip-side, friends, those people can be locked in a different kind of embrace altogether which would mean, well, you know...

Here we are...

January of 2009! Who wouldda thought the two of us would be sitting here blogging about our wonderful marriage? In years past, not many. Our story is this:

We started off on this journey in 1990. We had both just embraced Jesus Christ as the Lord of our lives and were following hard after Him. Then life set in--anger, addiction, self-centeredness, children, baggage from every bad place we'd ever been. We ripped each other up, tore each other apart and eventually counted the days until the last of the six children would be out of the house. We had our marriage on the clock, the one counting down to what we thought would be freedom.

We went to church most Sundays, loved the Lord, were active in ministry and threw ourselves at the foot of the Cross every time we really screwed up. No one knew how broken we were, how much we didn't even talk to each other. But God did, and in response to a deep and desperate cry one lonely afternoon, He touched our lives in a way that changed us forever.

We decided to create this blog to share our experience, strength and hope, because when marriages break up, everyone is crushed--for generations--and it doesn't have to be that way.